I cannot imagine ever having a more depressing thing to do. It was very hard and the entire time I was traveling to and from my hometown a cloud hung over me which has yet to dissipate.
Here, then, is the eulogy that I delivered, and some photos from the service and from a series of displays that were set up by his cousin, Mauri, to celebrate his life.
Bill as a radio DJ and from about the time he was the Voice of Woolworth's. |
Bill's favorite Superman actor was George Reeves, but his cousins found this pen sketch he tossed off from memory of Kirk Alyn as Superman. |
Me, delivering the eulogy. |
One of the many displays of photos and memories of Bill's life. Created by his cousin, Mauri Lazaro. |
One of Bill's Superman collectibles. |
“Never Ending”
A Eulogy for Edward William Gronroos,
Jr.
I knew Bill for most of my life. Since I met him when
I was 18 and I’m now almost 61—that’s over 42 years--it is easy to say that he
was the closest friend that I’ve had for the longest time. We knew one another
well.
One thing that I want to mention today is the fact
that Bill and I occasionally talked about sensitive subjects that lots of
friends avoid because they want to stay friends. I think that says a lot for
our friendship. You know the two subjects—religion and politics. Specifically,
though, I think of what Bill had to say about the human soul.
Because Bill did believe in the soul and that it was ever-lasting.
He thought that it was created, that it was here for the duration of his time
on Earth, and that when he died it would continue on. Ever-lasting, as he
insisted.
Another thing about Bill came from almost the first
day I met him--he sincerely took to heart something that we both had heard and
read as children and it went straight to the core of who he was.
You’ll recognize it if you ever spent much time around
him. It originated with his favorite bit of pop literature—Superman, and it
meant as much to Bill as anything can mean to anyone.
He believed in the never-ending battle.
He felt that a person was in for a never-ending battle
as long as they were alive. And I saw it every day that I spent in Bill’s
company. People gave him a hard time. Even his friends sometimes were less than
charitable to him. But Bill persevered. It was all part of his eternal struggle.
Not for truth and justice, maybe. But for as much of dignity as he could find
and grasp while he was with us.
I knew that Bill suffered from depression. He told me
about it from time to time, and what a burden it was for him. It was especially
hard in the face of cruelty, and in the wake of all manner of personal
disappointments and broken plans and dreams. But Bill was true to the creed
that he’d first heard as a kid. It was important for him to keep up that
never-ending battle because only a coward would do otherwise. More than
anything, it was Bill’s job to be as strong as possible against whatever
adversary the world chose to throw his way.
And now Bill is gone. Now he doesn’t have to struggle
against the cruelty and harshness that sometimes found him. I often saw Bill
create a solid wall of stoicism through things that would have reduced me to
tears or rage or even violence. I watched Bill deflect hardship and callousness
with humor, humility, and compassion. Bill was far and away a better man than I
am.
This was because he displayed a kind of courage that I
know I could never match. I could try for another forty years to do it and I’d
never measure up.
And I know that Bill was right, that his soul is
ever-lasting because of everyone who is here. If you knew Bill then a little of
his personality is present in your hearts. When you hear music you will hear
Bill’s voice. If a person is being bullied and responds with a smile you will
see Bill. Someday when you are passing a bookshelf and spot a kid reading a superhero
comic, you’ll know that Bill just gave you a wink. And if you are sometimes
lonely you can think of Bill’s voice and his tendency for reason and his cool response
with love in the face of difficulty, and you will be better for it.
Bill Gronroos fought that never-ending battle to the
last beat of his heart, and his kind soul is certainly ever-lasting because I
have felt it and heard it almost every day since he left this place where the
rest of us still reside.
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